As a mom, I feel like the job is never done. Yes, I have an awesome husband who is more than capable of taking care and managing our daughter’s day-to-day life. But why do I still feel the need to give him feedback and make a list of daily tasks out loud?
To fight the pressure for perfection, we need to figure out how to really deal with these struggles — and my type-A personality certainly doesn’t help.
The daily struggles
The struggle is real. Here are some tips for dealing with the daily expectations that come with being a mom:
- Find some mom friends who are walking the same path you are. It’s comforting to know you aren’t the only one with a lot on your plate.
- Let life teach you a thing or two, expect to fall and then pull yourself up and do it all over again. But this time better, do it smarter and with more confidence.
- Don’t worry about the haters and the people trying to steal your joy. Millennial moms are smart and tech savvy, but also know that ‘80s and ‘90s values are a foundation for achieving a balance.
Making time for self-care
Making lunches, going to work, picking up the kids, after-school activities, dinner duties, being a wife, friend, daughter, sister … it’s hard to find any time to take a breather, but don’t forget how important it is to take care of yourself.
You are Wonder Woman, but you can still ask your partner and kids to pick up the slack or pick up after themselves. There is no harm in asking for help or even hiring someone to do the tasks we just don’t have the time or energy for.
Our day-to-day is jammed-packed, and we are always on our phones. Limit your phone time — put it down and enjoy the moment. Eat dinner with your family and watch your kids laugh and play.
Balancing life and career
I personally could not struggle more with this. I doubt myself, I talk behind my own back, second-guess my every move and I feel the need to always perform. The need to always be the best is incredibly time consuming.
My advice is not to compete with other women or compare yourself to what they’re doing. Embrace them, partner with them and do business side by side. Take tips from these ladies and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
You’ve heard that confidence is key. Well, it is. Walk in a room with confidence — even if you’re faking it — and you’ll find that you can accomplish so much more than you even dreamed.
At the end of the day, ladies, all you can be is yourself. Don’t give up on the dreams that make you who you are. Enjoy your beautiful mess.
Rachel Dickerson, Owner, A Beautiful Mess 101 (@abeautifulmess101)